It looks like you were getting in just as I was getting out! Yes, I hope it doesn't take that long for you either. I can only say it does get better. I've never believed the old adage of "time heals" - it doesn't. It just gives distance from the events and an opportunity to look at things from a different perspective as your life changes. I found I was even polite to a couple of Jehovah Witnesses who came to my door last week and we had a respectful conversation even about their shunning rules - tho i had to contain myself on that one.
Not long after I left we had a visit from them and I'm afraid they got a very angry smart aleccy I know all about your bloody cults and their crazy prophecies response. Probably why we haven't seen them for about 20 years!Judging - yes, that took a while to get rid of. Its hard to get over the 'we are right they are wrong' mentality. However when the bloke who is preaching about perfection is in a long term affair with the 2ICs wife and has had affairs with several other women over the years - and the other so-called elders knew all about it and covered up other stuff as well - it isn't really hard to look at the gobbledegook that was passed off as teaching and decide it is a load of bollocks and how conned and foolish was I to believe it.
I look at some other stuff people believe and things they get heated about and think ok you can think that but I don't and we can still be friends. I've spent a few years in classrooms and the 'don't major on the minors' when it comes to students' behaviours applies just as well in church and other situations as well. 