Five red flags

[guest]

Another one for the library.

https://youtu.be/KPYj92zRuEk?si=xAo5oSZRbAI_3eJ6

[guest]

How to Spot the Narcissist Pastor - Traits and Behaviors

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GJ3Zd0dRBx4

[guest]

How to Spot the Narcissist Pastor - Traits and Behaviors

Yep. In this case, it's not just a few isolated incidents. It's a pattern of behaviour that has continued for decades, and it's not about to stop. It just goes on and on like waves crashing over a rocky beach. Sometimes the tide is in, sometimes the tide is out, but the cycle continues. People either learn how to suck up just the right way to save their skin until the tide goes out again, or they stand up for themselves and get smashed against the rocks the next time the tide comes in. That's the pattern. That's what has happened for decades, and it has left a trail of psychological destruction. People don't realise what they're in, mostly until it's too late.

So many empathetic people end up getting caught out because they thought they could help. The reality is that they eventually end up getting used and abused. And some have been in it so long, that they don't know anything different. It saddens me to acknowledge that these are God's precious people being abused. Heavy burdens are being loaded on people and it's stopping them from knowing the freedom the Jesus Christ died for. People should be fruitful, creative and effective in their lives. They should be salt and light to the world. But they end up caught in a continual cycle of never quite getting there. They think, "if only we apply the teaching of this next book correctly, then God will be pleased...". But the cycle just goes round again, like waves on that rocky beach...

That guy in this video is very perceptive. People often think they can help in whatever God-given capacity they have. But the reality is, all that can be done is to pray. In instances like this, the only hope is for God to miraculously intervene. That's what we can pray for.

[Dexter]

It's a pattern of behaviour that has continued for decades…

…they end up caught in a continual cycle of never quite getting there.

I’d say this is the essence of BCF teachings.

Sadly, I was reacquainted with this spirit of hopeless futility the other day while being lectured by a former member who still carries a lot of BCF in their thinking and behaviour (I’m not condemning them but I think it’s important to call it what it is).

I was left feeling utterly depressed, with not even a glimmer of hope or resurrection life that you’d expect to hear after speaking with a man of God. It was all death, death, death. I walked away wondering how I survived 20+ years of that kind of spiritual abuse.

[Helen Pomery]

I’m not condemning them but I think it’s important to call it what it is.

Dexter

This is a very important point you’ve made here Dexter.