Paul Kovak's MCF Blog

[Dexter]

Thanks Hope,

Maybe I came across as disparaging of the psych professions, which wasn't my aim.

In my case, I was fortunate to meet a Christian psych who helped me invaluably. And like you, I know God's hand was all over that introduction and subsequent meetings. It was a real, genuine answer to prayer and I thank God for that person.

There were, however, others (counselors, psychs) who seemed to dismiss the idea or existence of God. Maybe I was just paranoid but they seemed to be being secretly judging me for believing in a "giant sky fairy", or whatever they call God these days. I didn't have any confidence that they'd be able to help me.

Maybe as individuals we get different answers to our prayers but personally I didn't want to go to someone outside the body of Christ.

That isn't to say God can't use an unbeliever... it's just that I apply the principle of 1 Corinthians 6, regarding taking believers to court. I don't think it's a stretch to apply it to my situation. But I don't want to argue about it either so please just take this as an opinion not an disagreement

[Bagel]

Hi Folks,

Just adding to the conversation here. There are those who want to leave ‘the cult’ but are looking for the least scary exit strategy. For some, it’s a matter of finding a ‘church’ that suits them better. For others, it’s a choice to give up the Kool-Aid altogether. So my words are for those who don’t want to simply change which bar they are drinking at, but who want to actually give up drinking completely.

One thing I noticed with some people who left xCF was that they had been told that if you didn’t attend xCF, their only option was to descend into complete depravity. And some people who left xCF sort of did, for a little while. And maybe that’s the only way that they could understand life, it has to be almost fanatical. But I’m here to say that it needn’t be.

There are gentle and supportive pathways out of the confines of xCF life. There are healthcare professionals who are super helpful and knowledgeable, and trustworthy. There are book clubs, movie clubs, walking groups and so on who can give your life some stability and structure while you find your feet.

Be kind to yourselves,

Bagel